It’s in my nature to talk about the things no one wants to talk about, I just usually do it through a metaphor or turn of phrase that could be interpreted in a multitude of ways. In poetry, I can share the deepest, darkest parts of me so freely because the likelihood that you, my dear reader, will fully understand is pretty small. And if you do? Well, congrats! Though that means you’re probably also in the self-harm club, so it’s a bittersweet congratulations.
Read MoreWhat is cheating, exactly? Most people would say that having sex with someone other than your partner is cheating. But, what else? I am polyamorous with two partners, so cheating is a funny thing to me. Not “haha” funny, but more “I think about it a lot” funny. When I say cheating is about breaking agreements, I also mean cheating is about power and consent. There is an explicit—yet unspoken—agreement in monogamy: Don’t have sex with another person. But part of the problem stems from the lack of clarity. In polyamory, cheating is not necessarily about sex with someone else (though it can be!!), it turns into what power you’re trying to use, whose consent are you not getting, and/or what agreements are you breaking.
Read MoreAs a woman who grew up in the 90s under the curated spell of Hollister, Abercrombie, and Victoria's Secret, I have an almost hyper-awareness of my body through the lens of the male gaze. I can recall several conversations with older men when I was a preteen, imploring that I not become “fat” like their wives. “Don’t become another useless woman who just shops with their husband’s money and takes care of the kids,” they’d say. Yes, seriously.
And of course, at 11 years old, I wanted to be impressive and liked. I didn’t get straight As for nothing, you know? So I took on this lifelong assignment to always be small and self-sufficient, to take what a man says to heart in order to “win” against the other women.
I giggle as I reflect on and write this. Not because any of it is funny, but because. thankfully, somewhere along the way, I realized the old saying is true: Girls rule, boys drool.
Read MoreNothing is more frustrating than waking up in the middle of the night and being unable to fall back asleep. This 10-minute guided meditation created by our founder Kala MacDonald, certified yoga teacher, MA in Yoga Studies, will quiet your racing mind, helping you fall back into a restful slumber.
Read MoreEverywhere we look, whether in our daily lives or online, the body is framed as something to be conquered, disciplined, or overridden. Hunger is treated as suspicious, fullness as failure, and rest as weakness. Even well-intentioned recovery messages can subtly reinforce the idea the body is untrustworthy and must be managed through rigid rules or constant monitoring.
This framing misses a crucial truth: The body is not the enemy—it is the messenger.
Read MoreA gap that leads to post partum pressure. Sky shares her experiences dealing with six weeks post partum and her mindset to shift her into smoother gears! A lot happens to the body when a human gives birth/becomes a parent. Read along to see how Sky navigates this transition into motherhood.
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